I was reminded today that ‘having it all’ is truly about perspective. It is dependant on your worldview, your personal view, your perspective on the opinions of others, and your level of gratitude for what you have now. As I coach others on the unlimited abundance of the universe, I do it from a pedestal of what we in America label as middle class. I am very happy and grateful with my material status. I love my home, my car, my backyard, my clothing etc. I am happy and grateful for these things because they speak to where I am now in life. Knowing that abundance is unlimited, I also know that when and if I change my perspective on what I want in my life that it is just a wish away.
Today, my daughter spoke to me about her gratefulness for all that she has. She is happier than she has been in years. Her statements go against the grain of the capitalist belief that happiness is irrevocably tied to wanting and having more. When she lived in Austin, she had a spacious home with beautiful furniture, a relaxing and inviting backyard, a luxury model car and more clothing than closet space in a three bedroom home and she was unhappy to her core. In her move to Chicago, she now has a 550 square foot apartment, one very small closet and walks to work, shopping, dinners and fun. Her living space is so limited that she can only allow the things that really mater to her. She no longer owns anything because it matches the world’s expectations. I am seeing her for the first time in a month and she is radiantly beautiful with self-acceptance and joy.
Having it all is not about going home with the most marbles, it is about finding your center of joy and living there happily for awhile. Life is totally about change and trust me your life circumstances will change. If you feel the need to move forward or upward and want to claim more marbles – it is your choice. Just take a quick self assessment to ensure that what you want is not based on how you want others to perceive your level of success. What you have in your life should reflect what YOU want in your life as you look forward knowing that abundance is unlimited and you don’t need to have the world’s perception of ‘all’ at this moment. When you are looking at your life through the world’s eyeglasses, you will always come up short.
Look around you and decide what works toward your happiness and what doesn’t. Make a plan to replace what doesn’t and give God thanks for the pieces of your life you plan to keep. Make a plan, live your plan and be happy. You really are in control of your own destiny.